Happy Mother's Day 2025

Mother's Day can be difficult for those of us who have lost our moms. I remember after losing mine, everyone would invite me to join their celebration for the first few years. After that, I started making plans on Mother's Day with friends who had either lost their mom, or their mom lived in a different state.

It's been fourteen years since my mother passed away. I don't think about Mother's Day anymore unless I get invited to someone's house or a friend wants to hangout with me because they're having a difficult time dealing with the loss of their mom. It's not that I don't think about my mother. I think about her every day when I look at a framed photo of her on my desk. But  I no longer feel the same sharp pain as I did when I first lost her. Of course, it took me five years to feel like myself again, and not break into tears each time someone mentioned her name. And it took another five years for me to accept that she was gone.

One of the things that I found helpful was making plans to go out with friends on Mother's Day. Another thing that was helpful was to pick up the phone, and wish everyone I knew who was a mom, a Happy Mother's Day. I found that most people really appreciated it when I called them even though they were not my mom. Because you see, Mother's Day is a day to celebrate women, and everyone who is a mom.

Not everyone takes as long as I did to get over their mom. I remember being at a luncheon gathering, and someone I knew came up to me and told me to be patient and that it took her eight years to get over her dad passing away. And just by talking to her, I felt comforted.

If your mom is alive, do not take her for granted, and make sure you visit her as often as possible. If you are a mom, have an amazing Mother's Day with your family. And finally, if you have lost your mom, know that the pain lessens as the years pass, and what's left will be the good memories that you shared.